Lawyers who are unhappy at work often tell themselves they’ll feel things later. When they retire, maybe. The sense is that feeling the full weight of what’s happening would make it impossible to keep functioning, so the feelings get pushed down and the grinding continues. The problem is that feelings aren’t actually optional. The physical sensations that come with emotional…

Being good at your job and being in the right job are not the same thing. For lawyers who are high achievers, that distinction can be almost impossible to see when every external signal, strong reviews, steady advancement, a reputation for getting things done, is telling you that you must be in the right place. That disconnect often has roots…